Hey, I’m Michal!
I’m a single life blogger, sharing my own experiences and mistakes I made throughout my singlehood – the life lessons I’ve learned and how they helped me embrace my singleness.
This is the full story of how I started this blog:
Before I was living my best single life, I was busy fearing it and loneliness, going on all the wrong dates, with all the wrong people.
For the better part of a decade between the ages of 16-26, I was in long, serious relationships. It was all I knew, and I barely ever spent time being single. Mixed in with the pressure from society, I overstayed my welcome in an unhealthy relationship. I wasn’t in love, or attracted. I was in denial, convincing myself that I didn’t need that grand-love, that I will never find anyone else. And yes, I worried what people will think or say.
So I stayed, and dragged him along.
Entering singlehood somewhere in September 2016, I was devoid of energy and anything that ever made me, me. It cost me my well being and happiness to finally face the truth. I had to reach a point of complete misery to finally take that scary plunge into single life.
At first, I was relieved, I wanted nothing to do with anything remotely resembling a relationship. I needed time to recharge and regain my energy, after my last relationship sucked it all out of me – both on trying to make it work, and doing so with someone who was wrong for me.
As time passed, and I only got older and people kept asking me more and more “Why are you still single?” and, “Don’t you want to settle down?” I started hating every moment of being single, and became so desperate to end it, that I was chasing all the wrong, toxic people. And jumping from one bad date to another. All the while, blaming myself for how terrible it all was. Feeling like there was something fundamentally wrong with me, that I was unlovable.
It was the longest I had been single since I was 16, and it was only getting longer, and more frustrating. I was in a vicious circle, with no visible way out. I couldn’t see that my self deprecation and fear of single life, was causing me to go on terrible dates. Because I was so desperate that I was just going with the first guys I found. Regardless to how wrong they were for me. Which inevitably led to me blaming myself when they were awful.
It took me reaching a low point, yet again, to finally get a grip on myself. I was sick of feeling so weak, vulnerable and just wasting away my time and life. I was sick of crying over it all. Over the years I worked so hard to develop and grow into a strong woman. I was so proud of who I became and all the hard work I put into it, just to throw it all away due to rejection and being single.
I finally came to the realisation that I needed to get a grip and make the most of my status quo.
It was a difficult and bumpy road, where I made a lot of foolish mistakes. There were ups, downs and all arounds, but as time passed, I learned how to love my own company. How not to be scared of single life, and that it cam actually be happy and full. Being single is a choice. Being alone doesn’t mean you have to be lonely. You can be happy in your own skin and company, no matter what.
It is a process that starts with making a decision and then taking control over your own life. I, too, was terrified of entering the single world, the unknown is one of the most terrifying things. Taking a leap into that abyss is absolutely paralyzing. And the very real, very plausible possibility of remaining single for the rest of our lives. But being stuck in the wrong relationship is even scarier in the long run.
Over time I created my own system and methods. I took steps towards embracing myself the way I am, and my singlehood. Being single and happy, embracing yourself, requires maintenance. It is a way of life – which adapts and evolves with you. The more experience you acquire, the better your single life strategy will be.
It is with these mistakes, experiences and the life lessons I’ve learned along the way that I started to realise how much society is lacking in regards to its insights on single life.
It all started with the chaos of the pandemic… Before COVID struck, I was juggling between school, work, friends, family, volunteer work, and more. I was spending more time out and about, than I was at home. The lockdown forced me to halt, and take a break from all that. To put my life on pause and recalculate my route. It gave me time to reflect. Focus on my writing and my singlehood, and the implications and impact they have on my life.
Suddenly I became aware of the single life strategy I had in place, without even realizing it. I started to really break it down and work on developing my strategy. I decided to start share some of it with the world, on my blog. Sadly, there are many singles out there that are crumbling under society’s pressures. That don’t know how to embrace themselves and their singlehood.
That got my wheels really turning. It encouraged me to do some research on singles blogs, and I couldn’t really find many single life advocates and bloggers… Only a few one-shot posts on the topic. And it’s truly is a shame, that there aren’t many bloggers in this niche… If built right, single life can be amazing and create many opportunities for you. And there are too many people that don’t have that support, or medium to turn to.
Now, I want you to picture this: You’re no longer that bitter single who is making one bad decision after the other… You’re an empowered single, embracing yourself and your singleness.
In my blog posts you will read about all the single life lessons I’ve learned, from making every possible mistake – both in relationships and while single. I will share with you my strategy and insights on how to live your best single life, and how it can help you to do and be better. And also attract so much more.
With that being said – HUGE DISCLAIMER – I am NOT a licensed therapist, and I don’t practice psychology, coaching (yet) or any other form of consulting. Anything I share on this blog is personal insights and experiences that can be used as a guide, that can be taken as just tips and advice from a fellow experienced single.
I hope you can derive the empowerment you need to embrace yourself. To learn from your mistakes and truly feel comfort in your own skin and company. WITHOUT needing to chase toxic people, or rely on others affirmations. Only your own.
Throughout my platforms I offer Tips & advice for having a happy single life and how to feel comfortable in your own skin and company. With the main goal of reaching more singles around the globe, and creating a new consensus about being single. Hope you join me on the journey to self-embracement,
Stay safe, stay strong and stay healthy,
A little extra about me:
I was born on 23.07.90 and grew up in a small town outside of Jerusalem, called Maále Adumim. I was raised by British parents, and grew up speaking both Hebrew and English fluently. And write in both languages. Writing has always been a huge part of my life. I’ve been writing ever since I could write, and I could not live without it in my world.
I studies creative writing in Minshar College for art, in Tel-Aviv, combined with a BA in Literature and Psychology from the Open University of Israel. I completed my four years of studies in July 2020.