How to create a solo beach date in 6 simple steps, that will help you disconnect and reconnect with yourself. One of my all time favourite dates to take myself on, is a nice day at the beach, when the weather permits. Or at least for a few hours.
When I used to work night shifts at a hotel right on the beach in Tel-Aviv, I would go at 8am, at the end of the shift. I would leave my phone at and bag at work, change into a bathing suit, grab a towel and head to the beach. It’s the absolute best time to go. It’s still quite early, so there aren’t many people so it’s pretty quiet and it’s not too hot.
1. Leave your phone behind
Just like on every other date I write about, it’s important to just let go and disconnect. The world won’t fall apart and you won’t crumble without your phone for a few hours. Not only do you not risk your phone being stolen, you also gain some much needed electronic and social media cleansing. Part of the problem that prevents us from connecting with ourselves, is that we need a distraction at every second. A distraction that usually comes in the form of our phone. So do yourself a favour, and put it aside so you can connect to yourself better.
2. Choose the right location
I’ve written about this before, and its importance applies here as well. You want to pick a comfortable spot, where you can stay for at least 2-3 hours. So start with choosing a great beach, your favourite one if you can. A beach you know that you can enjoy. Once there, lay out a towel, sheet or blanket at a good spot that will help you feel comfortable.
3. Activities / pass times
While I do believe there should be no distractions in the form of electronic devices, I do think it’s okay to bring other distractions. – As long as you don’t spend the whole time distracting yourself from you and your thoughts. It can be a nice book, magazines, a crossword puzzle, sudoku, drawing supplies or anything else you enjoy.
4. Do some writing
Personally, I think that there’s no better place like a nice day at the beach to do some writing. Even if you’re not a writer, writing can be quite therapeutic and liberating. You don’t have to write anything serious – it can just be a short story or what is happening around you, what you see. But it can also be more serious, like what you’re feeling or a serious long term story you’re working on. Writing can be a great source of anxiety relief and an outlet for whatever you may be feeling. If you’re really not into writing, you can also do some playing with a musical instrument you enjoy.
5. Snacks, food and drinks
Just like every date, make sure to bring with you whichever favourite snacks, food and drinks that will make the date extra special. I do like to have a cheat meal on these dates, to add some excitement and to make it feel different.
6. Give yourself some quiet time doing nothing
So many of us struggle to just be by ourselves, and learn how to enjoy our own company. Which is crazy, because we are the person we are “stuck” with for the rest of our life, the only person that we will always have. So if you want to stop feeling like you’re “stuck” with yourself, and start feeling like you are great company… You need to stop avoiding your own company. So when you take yourself out on a date, whichever it may be, you need to make sure that you also make time to just sit with yourself and your thoughts. I like to play with my imagination, or think about fun memories. And what better place to do that, than by the beach, while you’re tanning and listening to the sounds of the ocean.
7. Take a stroll
Why not take full advantage and take yourself on a nice solo stroll? Hopefully you packed light, so you will feel completely comfortable to stroll without extra weight to hinder your enjoyment. Take this time to just enjoy the peace the ocean provides, to recharge and reconnect with yourself and your thoughts. Plus, it’s always a great added bonus to get your body moving a bit.
I know how hard it is to ignore all your insecurities and self doubts, to shut off the over thinking and ignore nagging feelings. That nagging sense that people are looking, judging you. The more you do it, the easier and better it will get. With time you will learn how to ignore them best, and also realise that you have nothing to be ashamed of. Also, much less people are actually looking and watching than you think.
A date at the beach should be relaxing and refreshing. If you do it right, and get yourself into the mood and vibe… It will energise you and recharge you to face your daily routine, and grow closer to yourself. If you prefer, you can also create almost the exact same date at the pool – as long as you find the time to spend some quality time with yourself.
Stay safe, stay healthy and stay strong!
All my best,