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Stroll & Ice-cream Self Date

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How to create a perfect Stroll & Ice-cream Self Date for yourself, in six simple and easy steps.

It may seem simple, or silly. You might even find it stupid, but too many people, myself included, have no idea how to just walk. Without a destination or goal in mind. Without any intention, other than learning how to enjoy your own company.

When was the last time you went out for a walk, just for the sake of walking? Not only to move your body, and get some exercise in, but just to roam and stroll around… I bet it has been a while for most of you. Up until not long ago, it was for me too. Spending so much time at home, due to lockdowns, had me desperate to get out for a bit. To get some breath of fresh air. To move my body and get some vitamin D.

So I put my earbuds in, put on my favourites playlist and went out. Then I just allowed myself to get lost, walk around with no real target or goal. And it got me really thinking about it, about how I was so used to always walking with a purpose. Always in a hurry and rush to get to school or work. If Corona was good for something, at least it gave me a chance to slow down. To pause and go at a slower pace and really appreciate it.

** check out the end of the post for the top benefits of this self-date
Tips to go all out:
  • Head out to a different city
  • Take a break in the middle – just sit and enjoy the moment somewhere nice
  • Do it on your day off, so you don’t feel any rush.
  • You can also combine it with a picnic date
1. Put on music or audiobook
1. Put on music or audiobook

If you’re anything like me, you also cringe and feel uncomfortable when it’s too quiet. Music has always been my “go to” ever since I was younger. It was my coping mechanism when things were too loud, or too quiet. I would constantly have headphones on with punk rock music blasting in my ears. And over the years, it stuck. I don’t like to spend the whole walk with music, I also like to spend part of it listening to the orchestra of noises around me. It’s also important to connect with the sounds, your surroundings.

I know how hard it can be to just be in your own mind, and sometimes it can be too much. And music is a great way to cope, because it helps soothe the overthinking without overflowing it completely. Music for me is a white noise of sorts, drowning out bad thoughts and anxiety. It helps me deal with them better, and thus allowing me to learn how to grow more comfortable in my own thoughts. You can also listen to a nice audiobook, just make sure it doesn’t consume all of your thoughts.

2. Choose a nice route
2. Choose a nice route

This may seem like a no brainer, but many times there might not be a nice route around where you live, so it will take a little extra effort to find one. It’s important to find a nice route, so you don’t get bored, so you feel good and happy. So this may be the most basic decision, but it’s also super fundamental. If you don’t find an interesting and pretty trail, you probably won’t last long, and likely won’t do it again.

  • If you can, try to choose a route that you don’t use or walk through regularly, so it feels different and unique.
  • DON’T choose a route that you use regularly or visit a lot, make it unique.
  • Try combining a market to walk through, so you also add some more spice and interest to the walk.
3. Don’t plan it out too much
3. Don’t plan it out too much

That being said, make sure not to plan it out too much, and don’t commit to one direction from the start. Allow yourself to just roam, make spur of the moment decisions and be spontaneous. It will make the whole date so much more fun, if you just take random turns and surprise yourself by going different directions. Also, not worrying about the route you’re going, and making sure you’re going the right way – will release some tension from your mind. 

  • If you’re in a different city or a neighbourhood you don’t know well, don’t just follow google maps, allow yourself to even get lost a bit – go where your heart takes you.
  • Try not to calculate how much time you’ve been walking, or how far, and how long it would take you to walk back – within reason.
  • If you end up going a bit to far you can always hop on a bus or taxi back.
4. Walk leisurely and don’t rush
4. Walk leisurely and don’t rush

This one is so super hard for me. Before the pandemic, I was traveling to Brighton and London, and I was just walking around at my usual fast pace. I found myself stopping a few times and wondering why I was in such a rush. I had to consciously remind myself, and even force myself, to slow down. It wasn’t easy, because I also like walking fast. But when you do that, even if you like it, it gives the illusion of being in a hurry, and even adds stress. So even if you have to force yourself at first, like me, it’s worth that extra effort to help you completely let go.

5. Let go of all devices
5. Let go of all devices

Just like on every other date with anyone else, and like I’ve mentioned before – you need to fully commit. That also means to let go of your phone. And yes, I know that these days it’s like asking someone to give up an organ. It’s hard for me as well. But it’s super important to not distract yourself with your phone, to fully be present in the moment and bond with yourself completely. Not to mention that some detoxing from your phone is always a good idea, and is another reason why I highly recommend dating yourself.

  • Put your phone on silent and only answer calls / respond to messages if it’s really urgent. Let’s face it – most calls and messages can wait a couple of hours.
  • DON’T check your social media, it will be there at the end of the date as well. If you want to post stories, take pictures and post them later.
  • If you can, for at least part of the time, put it in your bag and don’t check it at all. I like to hold it in my hand or put it in my pocket in my daily life, but on a date I put it away.
6. Treat yourself to a nice ice-cream or frozen yogurt
6. Treat yourself to a nice ice-cream or frozen yogurt

I mean, what date goes without a nice treat, right? And let’s face it, ice-cream is always a good idea (unless you’re lactose intolerant, of course). It doesn’t have to be ice-cream, but make sure it’s a fun treat that will make you and the date feel extra special. It can also be a nice iced coffee or milkshake if you would like. As long as you treat yourself to something fun and exciting, that will add some spice to the date.

  • If you can, sit with your ice-cream on a nice bench in a park or on the beach, and take your time to just enjoy it and the moment.
  • Take your time eating it – savour the moment and every bite.
  • If you don’t like ice-cream, or it’s too cold, or can’t find an ice-cream place… You can also go for any other treat you like and can find. Like a chocolate bar, waffle, etc.

This date may sound simple and ordinary, but really it’s super important. Not only to allow yourself a nice hour or two where you’re just not in a rush. But also a good way to grow more comfortable in your own company and thoughts. As I’ve written before, to grow that comfort, you need to spend more time in your own company. And what better way, than strolling around alone, with your own thoughts?

Benefits of this date
  • A great way to spend quality time with yourself
  • It will help you feel more comfortable in your own company
  • You will learn how to not rush and take it slow
  • Developing the capability to just walk and let go, wrap yourself in the moment
  • An easy and simple way to ease yourself into being “seen alone” outside
  • Getting comfortable being outside alone
  • It’s also a great way to get comfortable in your own head with your own thoughts
  • Which can also be a great opportunity to self reflect
  • Helps you develop your imagination

Happy strolling!

Stay safe, stay healthy and stay strong!
All my best,
Michal B.L.

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Hey there! My name is Michal, I was born and raised in Israel, currently I live in Tel-Aviv. In my Single Life Blog I write about single life in all its glory, and share Single Life Lessons to help you embrace singlehood. I offer tips and advice for a better, happy single life. How to be independent, feel comfortable in your own skin and company, and how not to chase toxic people.

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