Top 20 positive habits to enhance your single life – these are the best habits you need to implement in your life.
If you take a moment to think about it, most of our daily lives are constructed of habits. Waking up at a certain time, getting ready, brushing our teeth, eating at specific times, checking our phone, and so on. Many of them have become so second nature to us, we barely even notice we’re doing them anymore. When it comes to positive habits, that’s okay. But with negative ones, it can be fatal. Which is why it’s so important to self reflect and always be in control of our own lives and what we fill it with. Even if they’ve become ‘automatic habits’, make sure to keep tabs on them.
Creating new, positive habits, and nurturing my older ones, has been a huge and important part of my journey to embracing myself and my singleness. You also can’t really love yourself properly, if you’re not creating positive habits, and are allowing yourself to be ruled by the negative ones. Positive habits not only help you spend your time wisely and more efficiently, but also help you connect with yourself better. They improve your daily life and overall well being. They also boost your confidence, which is a huge aspect of learning how to be single and happy and how to enjoy your own company.
These are the top 20 habits you should start focusing on to help you build a strong relationship with yourself and improve your single life:
1. Hygiene and self-care routines
Self care comes in many different shapes and forms, all of which are important to incorporate into your life. Not just once in a while, or when you remember. It needs to become a regular routine in your life. A habit that you implement every single day in some form. This is a habit that will make you feel so good about yourself, and will help you be happier and boost your self esteem. It will also increase your overall well being and love of yourself, your life and your singleness.
2. Make your bed
Yes, I’m well aware of how silly this may sound to some of you… But studies show that there are many benefits to just that one daily, small task. Making your bed organises your surroundings and makes it all seem less messy. And it’s so much easier to work in a clean and tidy space. Mastering this easy habit can also help you create and maintain other positive habits in your life. It’s also such a satisfying feeling and makes going to bed at the end of a long day that much better.
3. Keep your space clean
While we’re on the topic of bed making specifically, keeping your space clean and organised is a great habit to uphold in general. Make a habit to clean after yourself right away, put things away as soon as you finish using them. It makes it so much easier, and less messy. When you do this, your space is less likely to become cluttered and dirty on a regular basis. And again, having a clean space will make you feel better and make it so much easier to work, be productive and get things done. I always say that when you have a physical mess around you, you’ll likely also have one in your head.
4. Surprise yourself – buy yourself small gifts
This doesn’t mean you have to start splurging and going on a shopping spree, I mean small fun surprises that will boost your mood. Like when you buy your mum, a friend or a significant other a bouquet of flowers, some chocolates, or a small token that made you think of them when you saw it. It makes them happy and puts a smile on their face. It’s a testament to how much you care, that you thought of them. And you deserve the same thing from yourself as well.
5. Eating healthy and working out
Taking care of your health and living a healthy lifestyle is also an important form of self care to include in your life. Taking care of your body is probably one of the most important habits you can create for yourself. It will help you live a better and happier life, for longer. Creating a habit of it will make it easier and even enjoyable. When you push through the hard beginning of keeping it up and consistent… You will be able to do it with so much more ease, and it will be worth it in the end.
6. Self reflection and journaling
Life can pass us by and time can slip through our fingers without us even noticing it’s happening. It can all happen so fast, that it quickly becomes a catch up game, a race against time. Which is why it’s so important to make a habit of pausing, taking a moment to just reflect on your journey. Where you came from, where you are, where you’re going and where you want to be. what‘s been working for you and what hasn’t and needs to change. Writing this down in a journal can help you organise this process better and help you keep track.
7. Going out for walks
Making a habit of going for regular walks has many benefits all around. It gets you out of the house, gets your body moving and improves your overall well being. Being out in fresh air, especially in nature can do wonders for your mood, especially as a regular habit. This has also helped me feel so much less anxious and in general, so much calmer and more relaxed. It also gives you a much needed break and time to disconnect from your phone and social media, and reconnect with yourself.
8. Digital detox days
In this day and age, with more and more social media platforms coming out every year and multiple screens all around us on a daily basis… It’s crucial to take regular breaks and time away. For our mental and physical health, and in general, our overall well being. Screens in can harm our eyes and fog up our minds, but specifically when on social media platforms… It can have a very negative impact on our mood and self worth. Research and studies show that it can certainly cause us more harm and stress, than good.
9. Limit your social media time
I’m sure I don’t need to tell you the negative impact social media can have on your mental health and well being. It’s also not very productive or good to spend and waste our time on our phones, regardless of how good it may feel in the moment. It’s easy to get lost in the endless scroll and like other people’s adventures, instead of being out in the real world. But limiting your time on social media will free up so much time you can spend doing productive things and going on your own adventures.
10. Read before bed
Reading is a great habit to adopt in general, and specifically before you go to bed, and even when you wake up in the morning. Instead of spending time scrolling through social media yet again, and exposing your eyes to even more screen time… Use the time to wind down with a nice book. Besides being so much better for your mental health, reading is also educational, and provides you with some new skills… Like being able to just sit and read, be with yourself and self discipline. It’s also so much more relaxing than screens, and prepares you better for sleep.
11. Self grooming
Grooming in general should be a regular consistency in our life. Just like with self-care, it has a great impact on our self worth and helps us feel good about ourselves. Studies even show a direct connection between grooming and our mental health. The better you take care of yourself, the better you feel about yourself. You should also pamper yourself with at least one luxury grooming. Either getting your nails professionally done, going to a hairdresser to get an extra special hairdo, etc. I like to get my nails done as it helps me feel good, but only for myself and no one else. It also gives me that extra confidence boost.
12. Make to do lists
If you also tend to get a bit lost during the day with all of your daily tasks, then making a to-do list will definitely help. It will make you more productive and help you feel in control, and less lost, like you’re chasing your own tail. Even if you don’t tend to get lost, a good to-do list can structure your days and weeks better. They can also assist you in managing your time and making the most of it. I like to make a to-do list every evening for the next day, so I can go to sleep with a quiet mind… Knowing that I’ve already got the next day under control.
13. Wake up at a normal hour
One of the worst feelings in my book is waking up late and feeling like you wasted time. Especially if you work from home, or even if you work in shifts and want to take advantage of your “home time”… I highly recommend you make the effort to get up at a normal time, preferably the same one everyday. It creates structure and gives you more hours to work, complete tasks and chores, and do all of the things you love and enjoy. Not to mention, it’s much more satisfying than waking up at noon or even later. Studies also show that you will lead a better, happier life and will be much more effective.
14. Don’t work from bed
I’ve sinned in this for a long time during the pandemic, and it took me a while to realise that while comfortable, it was making me less productive. Even if you work from home, I highly recommend you keep a strict, proper morning routine… Including getting out of bed, getting ready for the day and working from a proper desk, or even from the couch if you don’t have one. Just don’t work from your bed, as it will hinder your progress and also impact your sleep. You need to create a separate work environment if you want to create a better outcome of your day.
15. Do something artistic at least once a week
I’ve mentioned quite a few times how much I believe that art, in all its forms, is very therapeutic. Even if you’re no good at it, it’s still great to make a habit of practicing some form of art. Because you don’t need to be good at it in order to reap the benefits of it. It can help calm your nerves and anxiety, connect with yourself, spend quality alone time, and teach you new skills. Just to name a few. When you do this, you also feel like you’re spending your time well, having fun, without actually wasting it. Art can also definitely improve your overall well being and happiness.
16. Home cooking
This can also be a great skill to acquire as it has many benefits all around. First of all, it’s a useful skill that helps you save money (by not eating out) and eat healthier. You control your own consumption of food and what goes in it. It’s also a great way to spend some quality time with yourself. When done right, in the proper environment and atmosphere, it can also be very relaxing and therapeutic. Making a habit of cooking your own meals will surely improve your life, and will make you feel so much better. Even if you suck at it at first, just keep going. Start simple, and work your way up. If you do, you will get better and learn to love it.
17. Don’t always keep your phone at hand
These days our phones have sadly become like a whole new external organ that we can’t seem to live without. Whether we’re sitting with friends, working, riding on the bus or sitting in a cafe, or just walking down the street… We can’t seem to detach from it for even a moment. We depend on it to keep in touch, save valuable information, take pictures, and navigate our way around. It even replaces our need to know anything, as any information we could possibly need is always within one google search. And while all that is very useful, we need to be very careful and minded to just how much we immerse ourselves in them. Don’t let them replace your brain, and try not to always reach for it whenever you have a quiet moment.
18. Call or text your friends
While a big part of being single is enjoying your own company, and learning how to b happy alone… It doesn’t mean you shouldn’t spend time with others. In fact, a huge part of being single is having so much more time for friendships, than you did while in relationships. Regardless of your relationship status, you should always make some time to catch up with friends. Making a habit of calling or texting regularly will also help you be better at keeping in touch, and will also help you maintain your friendships. Not to mention, that your friends will appreciate it and it will probably improve their day that much more.
19. Have random fun moments
This is a silly one, but also definitely one of my favourites, if not the favourite. It’s also one of the best and easiest habits to adopt. As it can improve your mood instantly, and also your well being in the long run. You can either put on some fun music and dance around, do funny imitations, sing at the top of your lungs, make silly faces at yourself in the mirror, or anything else you can think of. Not only does this make you happier, but it also helps you grow and build your affection and connection with yourself, and helps you feel closer to you.
20. Be curious and keep learning
Letting life and things just pass you by is never a good thing to do. Sure, there are many things you should just brush off and move on from. Not everything needs to be analyzed and examined. But you do need to learn how to recognise when to pause a moment, be curious and learn new things. Part of being successful and having a better life is always expanding your knowledge and skill-set. Don’t let things just pass you by, learn how to ask questions and dive deeper into topics that interest you. Make a habit of consuming useful and broadening information, instead of useless content.
As humans, we’re creators of habits. While it’s okay to indulge sometimes, and it’s even required to have some cheat days every so often… It’s crucial to always be on top of your game when it comes to your positive habits. They have a great impact on yourself and your life all around (as mentioned in the opening paragraphs). As a single woman, I don’t think I would be able to be as whole as I am with myself without all of these habits. They were a huge, inseparable part of my journey. These habits also helped shape me into who I am today, and can do the same for you.
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